April 15, 2014

Women Living Well

Loved this book!

Courtney openly shares her love of God, her husband, her children and her home.

Her book is broken into 4 sections:
 
Part 1: Your Walk With The King

Part 2: Your Marriage

Part 3: Your Parenting

Part 4: Your Homemaking
 

Courtney starts her book out with this:

"God created us to walk with Him, to know Him, and to be loved by Him. He is our living well, and when we drink from the water He continually provides, His living water will change us, making us more like Jesus."

I thought I'd share just a couple of parts that stuck out for me.


Firstly, in chapter 4 'The Effects of the Media Revolution' Courtney address some highs and lows of social media. Things like social media and our spiritual life and social media and our friendships. If you are a woman you will relate to many of the things she talks about. One being jealousy.

She says here:

"The comparison trap is just that - a trap! Pictures of vacations, new homes, new cars, or fun nights out with friends are a breeding ground for jealousy. There are two sides to this coin. First, there's the person putting the information out there. Is it wrong to post a picture of your vacation or fun night out?  

No...but we can be sensitive to those who weren't invited or who can't afford a vacation this year. We don't have to post every picture or an update about every night out. Philippians 2:3-4 says, 'In humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.'

On the flip side, jealousy is all throughout the Bible, and we see how deadly it is to friendships. Remember Cain and Abel, Sarah and Hagar, Joseph and his brothers, Haman and Mordecai, Saul and David, and the Pharisees and Jesus? These are just to name a few; if we looked into it further, we'd find many more relationships in the Bible that were ruined by jealousy. 

Jealousy comes when we take our eyes off Jesus.

When I feel discouraged by things happening in the social media world, I always come to a point of realizing that I have taken my eyes off Jesus. Hebrews 12:1-2 says, 'Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith.' 

We must focus on Jesus and exchange drama for peace."

This really resonated with me. A few years ago I went off of my personal Facebook for this very reason.

Jealousy.

It was eating at my heart and I finally decided to deleted all my friends and take some time off. After almost a year, I went back on, invited my friends back and it has been totally different. Taking that time off to refocus on the Lord and not on what others were doing and saying made a huge difference in my life. Now I'm really enjoying Facebook and all my friends there.


Secondly, in chapter 6 'The Time-Warp Wife' Courtney talks about respecting our husbands. She mentions that we all have areas that we struggle with in doing this.

She says here:

"None of us is married to a perfect man. All husbands are flawed, just as we wives are all flawed, simply because we are all sinners. In most sitcoms, the husband is the brunt of jokes. He is stupid, while the wife knows it all and runs the house. This may be culturally acceptable, but it is not acceptable to God.

God has placed an order in our homes according to Ephesians 5, and the man is the head of the home and is to be respected in that role. 'The husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church.' (v.23).

Since this order is God ordained, when a wife bucks the system and disrespects her husband, her problem is not with her husband but with God. Does she trust God enough to take care of her? Is she willing to quietly pray about the problem she is having with her husband and give God room to work in her husband's heart? Is she willing to support her husband fully as his helpmate and make it safe for him to make a mistake and ask for help, or does he fear his wife's harsh tongue when he fails and therefore does not feel safe to ask for help."

Elisabeth Elliot, in her book 'Let Me Be A Woman' asks the question, 'Who is it you marry?'

Elisabeth says here:

"You marry a sinner. There's nobody else to marry. That ought to be obvious enough, but when you love a man as you love yours it's easy to forget. You forget it for a while and then when something happens that ought to remind you, you find yourself wondering what's the matter, how could this happen, where did things go wrong? 

They went wrong back in the Garden of Eden. Settle it once for all; your husband is a son of Adam. Acceptance of him...of all of him...includes acceptance of his being a sinner. He is a fallen creature, in need of the same kind of redemption all the rest of us are in need of, and liable to all the temptations which are 'common to man.'" 

Elisabeth later writes in her book:

"But you will find yourself disarmed utterly, and your accusing spirit transformed into loving forgiveness the moment you remember that you did, in fact, marry only a sinner, and so did he. It's grace you both need."

This reminded me that we don't respect our husbands because of the way they are (sinners just like us), but because God asks us too. And everything God asks of us is for our ultimate good.


And lastly, in chapter 13 'Motherhood Mess-Ups' Courtney talks about the ups and downs of being a mom. I really appreciated what she said here about parenting books vs prayer:

"There are enough books on parenting to fill a football stadium, so reading a book with a formula clearly does not work. I believe in the power of prayer. Each child and each mother is in a unique situation. Don't get me wrong; I love parenting books and have read many, but none of them can replace the prayer of a mother for her child."

I can't emphasize this enough. How-to-books will help for a season, but not in the long run.

Intimate prayer with the Lord will.


I really enjoyed this book and how much it honored the Lord. Courtney has a beautiful heart and it comes through on the pages of her book.

I'll leave you with some great quotes Courtney used:

On Marriage:

"A good marriage is the union of two forgivers." Ruth Bell Graham

"Conflicts are not a sign that you have married the wrong person. They simply affirm that you are human." Dr. Gary Chapman

On Parenting:

"God works through faithful parents who, in spite of dark and difficult days, walk obediently to Him." Elizabeth George

"What is spoken wisely should be spoken calmly, and then it will be calmly considered. But passion will lessen the force even of reason, instead of adding any force to it." Matthew Henry

On Homemaking:

"Give yourself permission not to have your to-do list all checked off in order for you to rest and get alone with God." Courtney Joseph


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28 comments:

  1. Wow, what great insights are listed here. I want to read this book and all of the books quoted from! It is interesting the thoughts on social media. I have never heard anyone else state them but comparison and jealousy kept me from joining Facebook for many years. I figured my heart couldn't handle it. Now, that I have joined, I think some of the hoopla is gone from there.

    There are so many other great quotes here. We marry a sinner! There are no other choices! How obvious yet overlooked. Thanks for sharing all of this. I am so glad that I stopped by.

    A SDG sister the signed in after you.

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    1. I love thought-provoking quotes and Elisabeth Elliot has a lot of them! This one: "You marry a sinner. There's nobody else to marry." really got to me too!

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  2. Glad to hear you enjoyed this book. I just picked it up this weekend. I enjoy Courtney's website, so I'm looking forward to reading the book.
    ~Cameron

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    1. Hope you enjoy the book too. : )

      Thanks for stopping by Cameron!

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  3. I lead a mom's study group and this is the book that we are currently doing. In fact, we are just starting chapter 4, lol! I love what she said about bucking the system and if a wife has a problem, "her problem is not with her husband but with God."

    It's been a great book for leading discussions and having conversations on parenting, marriage, quiet time, priorities and am looking forward to the rest of the book! It's really resonated with the moms. :)

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    1. Good to hear! I really loved the first two sections of the book the most on walking with the King and on marriage.

      The sections on parenting and homemaking will resonate more with young moms. My kids are all grown up now so these chapters were more of a reminder of old times for me. : )

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  4. I love Courtney Joseph and her book is on my list of books to get and read. Thanks so much for doing a review on it...you just made me want the book even more :-)

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    1. You'll enjoy it! Thanks for stopping by Judith. : )

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  5. This is on my list of the top ten reads on womanhood. I learned so much from this book - and from her blog as well.

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    1. I agree there was a lot of great things to learn from in this book. Glad you liked it too. : )

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  6. I would love to read it too! Seems to be a very good book for a young lady like me. Thanks for your this post!
    Have a blessed Holy Day!!!

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  7. This is an excellent review! Thank you for sharing it with us.
    Please drop by!

    Blessings,
    Laura of Harvest Lane Cottage

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  8. Great review! A lot to take in! Stopped by from Woman to Woman.

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    1. Yes, definitely a lot to think about! Thanks for visiting Susan. : )

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  9. I've got to purchase this book! Glad I found you over at Wholehearted Home.

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    1. Hi Cynthia, glad you stopped by! Hope you enjoy Courtney's book. : )

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  10. Looks like a wonderful book. I've seen it mentioned throughout Social Media but enjoyed reading your review. Thank you for sharing with Three Word Wednesday. Blessings to you, Cathy.

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    1. It really is a great book. I think it's because it's Courtenay's heart, a heart that loves and seeks the Lord. : )

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  11. Great insights! I have this book and it is on my nightstand ready to read but I have not had the chance to begin. Now I know I need to take some time out to dig into Women Living Well. Blessed to be your Weekend Brew neighbor this week! Mary

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    1. It's a great book to dig into! Thanks for visiting Mary. : )

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  12. Thanks for sharing the review. I will definitely be looking more into this book. Blessings!

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  13. Thanks for the great review, and especially, for all the great quotes! (And thanks for your visit to my blog recently ... )

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  14. I pray this book will bless many! Thanks for sharing this at Booknificent Thursday!
    Tina

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  15. I've seen lots of great things about this book! Glad you enjoyed ::) I hope you can stop by:

    http://collettaskitchensink.blogspot.com/2014/04/cozy-reading-42414.html

    Colletta

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  16. I have had it on my list of books to read, but you encouraged me to move it to the top.

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    1. Donna, glad you are thinking of reading this soon. It will encourage you. : )

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